Putting Your Kids First in Divorce: Lessons in Ego, Growth, and Parenting

Divorce isn’t just about you—it’s about your kids, too. In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice unpacks the challenging but essential topic of prioritizing children through the chaos of divorce. From managing ego-driven conflicts to modeling emotional regulation, Audrey shares insights on creating a safe, supportive environment for your children—even when co-parenting is challenging. If you’ve ever struggled navigating custody agreements, communicating with an ex, or simply keeping your kids' well-being at the center of your decisions, this episode is for you.

Audrey welcomes listeners from Ola Acupuncture in Honoka, Big Island of Hawaii, reflecting on time zones and the illusion of time itself. She expresses gratitude for the growing Divorced AF community, sharing her excitement about the podcast's impact. She encourages listeners to leave reviews to help spread the message and reach more people who need this support.

• Why Kids Must Come First in Divorce

As parents, we instinctively want what’s best for our children, but divorce can complicate that. Audrey discusses how ego-driven conflicts often get in the way of prioritizing children’s well-being. She highlights how kids learn more from what we do than what we say and shares a powerful quote from Nikki Marie about the story our children will one day tell about us.

• Modeling Healthy Behavior and Avoiding Conflict

Audrey emphasizes that arguing in front of children does more harm than good, impacting their ability to regulate emotions. She shares personal experiences of learning from her mistakes and reminds parents that belittling the other parent only hurts the child. Instead, she urges parents to focus on growth, self-awareness, and leading by example.

• Parenting Agreements and Child Safety

One of the most practical tools in co-parenting is a solid parenting agreement. Audrey explains why precise custody schedules and responsibilities are crucial and stresses that the parent with the child must ensure they are properly cared for no matter what's in writing. She also touches on situations where a child’s safety is at risk and offers mediation and coaching as alternatives to costly legal battles.

• Reflections on Growth and Parenting

Audrey wraps up the conversation by reminding parents that their children are always watching, always learning. She shares a client’s story of a child afraid to speak about their other parent, demonstrating the deep impact of parental behavior. She encourages listeners to embrace their divine nature, lead with love over ego, and always keep their children’s well-being as the top priority.

Divorce is hard, but your kids don’t have to suffer because of it. How you show up as a parent—handling conflict, communicating, and prioritizing their needs—will shape their future. Let this be your reminder to put ego aside, lead with love, and always keep your children at the center of your decisions. If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and keep showing up as the best version of yourself. Your kids are watching, and they need you.

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Navigating Co-Parenting: Embracing the New Normal

In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice delves into the multifaceted world of co-parenting, offering insights and personal anecdotes to help parents navigate this challenging journey. From redefining "normal" to managing personal time and supporting children's transitions, Audrey provides practical advice for co-parents striving to create a harmonious environment for their families.

• Defining the New Normal in Co-Parenting

Audrey begins by introducing the topic of co-parenting, humorously questioning the concept of "normal." She emphasizes that co-parenting varies for everyone, focusing on situations where both parents have agreed on a custody plan and generally adhere to it. Audrey shares a light-hearted moment about the song "How Bizarre," setting a relatable tone for the discussion.

• Emotional Challenges and Letting Go

Addressing the emotional hurdles, Audrey speaks to parents, especially primary caregivers, about the sadness and difficulty of being apart from their children when they're with the other parent. She discusses the lack of control over the other household and its impact on children's routines. Drawing from personal experience, Audrey recounts moments of tears when her kids left for their dad's house, underscoring the importance of allowing oneself to feel and process these emotions.

• Rediscovering Yourself: Activities and Personal Time

Audrey suggests various activities for parents during their personal time, such as visiting the ocean, spending time with friends, and exploring new hobbies. She shares personal stories, including joining an acro yoga group and attending cooking classes, highlighting the joy and fulfillment these brought her. Audrey encourages parents to pursue interests they previously couldn't due to responsibilities, emphasizing the significance of engaging in activities purely for personal joy.

• Supporting Children's Transitions and Maintaining Peace

Discussing the challenges children face when transitioning between households, Audrey highlights the importance of not engaging in conflicts with the other parent regarding differing parenting styles. She advises parents to focus on their well-being, employing techniques like breath work, calming music, and exercise to manage emotions. By staying calm and regulated, parents can better support their children's adjustments.

• The Power of Apologizing and Upholding Respect

Audrey emphasizes the necessity of apologizing to children when parents lose their temper, regardless of the cause. She shares a personal experience where apologizing positively impacted her relationship with her children. Introducing the concept of co-apologizing, Audrey suggests that both parents acknowledge mistakes and apologize together, reinforcing that children are not to blame for parental difficulties and that their well-being remains paramount.

• Steering Clear of Negative Talk About the Other Parent

Audrey advises against speaking negatively about the other parent in front of the children, as it can foster resentment and complicate relationships. She acknowledges that children are perceptive and will eventually understand the reasons behind a divorce. Audrey stresses the importance of not burdening children with adult conflicts and emotions, urging parents to manage their feelings independently and avoid projecting them onto the children.

• Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

Wrapping up the episode, Audrey encourages parents to seek additional tools and support as needed. She highlights the value of sharing stories and posing questions in the show notes and on social media, fostering a supportive community. Audrey invites parents to engage with others in similar situations, offering a reminder that they are not alone on this journey.

Co-parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up for your kids with love and intention.

Navigating co-parenting is challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone. Take things one day at a time, focus on what you can control, and always lead with patience and grace—for yourself and your children.

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Connect with Audrey

• Instagram: @iamaudreyalice

• Email: Audreyajamos@gmail.com

• Website: DAF Podcast

Be a Guest on the Show

Do you have a powerful story to share? Want to inspire others with your post-divorce journey? Fill out our guest application form and join Audrey on the show!

This is more than a podcast—it’s a movement. Welcome to Divorced AF, where transformation begins.

Thank you for listening to today’s episode of Divorced AF with Audrey! If you found this episode helpful, please share it with another woman who could use some support on her journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help us reach more incredible women like you. Remember, Sister, your divorce was just the beginning, and the best is yet to come. Until next time!

Navigating Co-Parenting: Embracing the New Normal

In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice delves into the multifaceted world of co-parenting, offering insights and personal anecdotes to help parents navigate this challenging journey. From redefining "normal" to managing personal time and supporting children's transitions, Audrey provides practical advice for co-parents striving to create a harmonious environment for their families.

• Defining the New Normal in Co-Parenting

Audrey begins by introducing the topic of co-parenting, humorously questioning the concept of "normal." She emphasizes that co-parenting varies for everyone, focusing on situations where both parents have agreed on a custody plan and generally adhere to it. Audrey shares a light-hearted moment about the song "How Bizarre," setting a relatable tone for the discussion.

• Emotional Challenges and Letting Go

Addressing the emotional hurdles, Audrey speaks to parents, especially primary caregivers, about the sadness and difficulty of being apart from their children when they're with the other parent. She discusses the lack of control over the other household and its impact on children's routines. Drawing from personal experience, Audrey recounts moments of tears when her kids left for their dad's house, underscoring the importance of allowing oneself to feel and process these emotions.

• Rediscovering Yourself: Activities and Personal Time

Audrey suggests various activities for parents during their personal time, such as visiting the ocean, spending time with friends, and exploring new hobbies. She shares personal stories, including joining an acro yoga group and attending cooking classes, highlighting the joy and fulfillment these brought her. Audrey encourages parents to pursue interests they previously couldn't due to responsibilities, emphasizing the significance of engaging in activities purely for personal joy.

• Supporting Children's Transitions and Maintaining Peace

Discussing the challenges children face when transitioning between households, Audrey highlights the importance of not engaging in conflicts with the other parent regarding differing parenting styles. She advises parents to focus on their well-being, employing techniques like breath work, calming music, and exercise to manage emotions. By staying calm and regulated, parents can better support their children's adjustments.

• The Power of Apologizing and Upholding Respect

Audrey emphasizes the necessity of apologizing to children when parents lose their temper, regardless of the cause. She shares a personal experience where apologizing positively impacted her relationship with her children. Introducing the concept of co-apologizing, Audrey suggests that both parents acknowledge mistakes and apologize together, reinforcing that children are not to blame for parental difficulties and that their well-being remains paramount.

• Steering Clear of Negative Talk About the Other Parent

Audrey advises against speaking negatively about the other parent in front of the children, as it can foster resentment and complicate relationships. She acknowledges that children are perceptive and will eventually understand the reasons behind a divorce. Audrey stresses the importance of not burdening children with adult conflicts and emotions, urging parents to manage their feelings independently and avoid projecting them onto the children.

• Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

Wrapping up the episode, Audrey encourages parents to seek additional tools and support as needed. She highlights the value of sharing stories and posing questions in the show notes and on social media, fostering a supportive community. Audrey invites parents to engage with others in similar situations, offering a reminder that they are not alone on this journey.

Co-parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up for your kids with love and intention.

Navigating co-parenting is challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone. Take things one day at a time, focus on what you can control, and always lead with patience and grace—for yourself and your children.

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Connect with Audrey

• Instagram: @iamaudreyalice

• Email: Audreyajamos@gmail.com

• Website: DAF Podcast

Be a Guest on the Show

Do you have a powerful story to share? Want to inspire others with your post-divorce journey? Fill out our guest application form and join Audrey on the show!

This is more than a podcast—it’s a movement. Welcome to Divorced AF, where transformation begins.

Thank you for listening to today’s episode of Divorced AF with Audrey! If you found this episode helpful, please share it with another woman who could use some support on her journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help us reach more incredible women like you. Remember, Sister, your divorce was just the beginning, and the best is yet to come. Until next time!

Navigating Co-Parenting: Embracing the New Normal

In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice delves into the multifaceted world of co-parenting, offering insights and personal anecdotes to help parents navigate this challenging journey. From redefining "normal" to managing personal time and supporting children's transitions, Audrey provides practical advice for co-parents striving to create a harmonious environment for their families.

• Defining the New Normal in Co-Parenting

Audrey begins by introducing the topic of co-parenting, humorously questioning the concept of "normal." She emphasizes that co-parenting varies for everyone, focusing on situations where both parents have agreed on a custody plan and generally adhere to it. Audrey shares a light-hearted moment about the song "How Bizarre," setting a relatable tone for the discussion.

• Emotional Challenges and Letting Go

Addressing the emotional hurdles, Audrey speaks to parents, especially primary caregivers, about the sadness and difficulty of being apart from their children when they're with the other parent. She discusses the lack of control over the other household and its impact on children's routines. Drawing from personal experience, Audrey recounts moments of tears when her kids left for their dad's house, underscoring the importance of allowing oneself to feel and process these emotions.

• Rediscovering Yourself: Activities and Personal Time

Audrey suggests various activities for parents during their personal time, such as visiting the ocean, spending time with friends, and exploring new hobbies. She shares personal stories, including joining an acro yoga group and attending cooking classes, highlighting the joy and fulfillment these brought her. Audrey encourages parents to pursue interests they previously couldn't due to responsibilities, emphasizing the significance of engaging in activities purely for personal joy.

• Supporting Children's Transitions and Maintaining Peace

Discussing the challenges children face when transitioning between households, Audrey highlights the importance of not engaging in conflicts with the other parent regarding differing parenting styles. She advises parents to focus on their well-being, employing techniques like breath work, calming music, and exercise to manage emotions. By staying calm and regulated, parents can better support their children's adjustments.

• The Power of Apologizing and Upholding Respect

Audrey emphasizes the necessity of apologizing to children when parents lose their temper, regardless of the cause. She shares a personal experience where apologizing positively impacted her relationship with her children. Introducing the concept of co-apologizing, Audrey suggests that both parents acknowledge mistakes and apologize together, reinforcing that children are not to blame for parental difficulties and that their well-being remains paramount.

• Steering Clear of Negative Talk About the Other Parent

Audrey advises against speaking negatively about the other parent in front of the children, as it can foster resentment and complicate relationships. She acknowledges that children are perceptive and will eventually understand the reasons behind a divorce. Audrey stresses the importance of not burdening children with adult conflicts and emotions, urging parents to manage their feelings independently and avoid projecting them onto the children.

• Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

Wrapping up the episode, Audrey encourages parents to seek additional tools and support as needed. She highlights the value of sharing stories and posing questions in the show notes and on social media, fostering a supportive community. Audrey invites parents to engage with others in similar situations, offering a reminder that they are not alone on this journey.

Co-parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up for your kids with love and intention.

Navigating co-parenting is challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone. Take things one day at a time, focus on what you can control, and always lead with patience and grace—for yourself and your children.

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Connect with Audrey

• Instagram: @iamaudreyalice

• Email: Audreyajamos@gmail.com

• Website: DAF Podcast

Be a Guest on the Show

Do you have a powerful story to share? Want to inspire others with your post-divorce journey? Fill out our guest application form and join Audrey on the show!

This is more than a podcast—it’s a movement. Welcome to Divorced AF, where transformation begins.

Thank you for listening to today’s episode of Divorced AF with Audrey! If you found this episode helpful, please share it with another woman who could use some support on her journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help us reach more incredible women like you. Remember, Sister, your divorce was just the beginning, and the best is yet to come. Until next time!

Episode 6 - The Passing of Simon: Grief, Growth, and Moving Forward

Grieving an ex-spouse is a unique and complicated experience, especially when your relationship was long over. In this deeply personal episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice opens up about the passing of her ex-husband, Simon. She reflects on the emotional complexities of his sudden illness, the unexpected waves of grief, and how she is navigating this chapter as a solo parent. If you’ve ever struggled with mourning someone you once loved but had to leave, this episode is for you.

• The Illness and Hospitalization

Audrey shares the moment she received a life-altering call—her ex-husband was in the ICU on another island. She walks listeners through the whirlwind of hospital visits, his brief recovery, and the heartbreaking turn when he contracted a lung infection and passed away. She opens up about the difficult decision one of her children made not to visit and the importance of allowing space for personal grieving choices.

• Processing the Emotional Impact

While they were no longer married, his passing still hit hard. Audrey discusses the mix of emotions—grief, sadness, and even unexpected feelings of loss. She highlights the power of community support and shares how connecting with other divorced women who’ve lost their ex-spouses has helped her process this experience.

• Navigating the Aftermath

Losing an ex-spouse comes with unique challenges—handling their estate, making difficult phone calls, and dealing with logistics you never expected to be part of. Audrey walks through the overwhelming process of managing Simon’s affairs while balancing her own emotions and those of her children. She reminds listeners that grief is unpredictable and comes in waves.

• Grieving and Moving Forward

Audrey reflects on how grieving a divorce differs from grieving a death. While she mourned the end of their relationship years ago, his passing brought a new layer of emotions. She discusses the practical side of grief—cremation, probate, and the mental toll of handling it all. Through it all, she emphasizes the importance of choosing joy, finding peace, and helping her children process their own grief in healthy ways.

• Memorializing and Letting Go

In an ironic twist, Audrey now finds herself holding onto items from her ex-husband’s home—and even his ashes. She shares how she is working to neutralize the energy and focus on positive memories, while also encouraging her children to find signs of their father in their everyday lives. Forgiveness, understanding, and community support are key themes in this part of the journey.

• Final Reflections and Encouragement

Audrey closes the episode with an important message: grief is complex, and all feelings are valid. She encourages listeners to reach out, share their stories, and seek support. Whether you’re grieving a divorce, a loss, or both, you are not alone.

Healing isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about reclaiming your future.

You are allowed to heal at your own pace. Whether you're rediscovering yourself, setting new boundaries, or just learning to breathe again, know that every small step forward is a victory. Give yourself grace, lean into the process, and keep choosing yourself.

You are allowed to grieve, heal, and move forward—on your own terms.

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Connect with Audrey

• Instagram: @iamaudreyalice

• Email: Audreyajamos@gmail.com 

• Website: DAF Podcast

Be a Guest on the Show

Do you have a powerful story to share? Want to inspire others with your post-divorce journey? Fill out our guest application form and join Audrey on the show!

This is more than a podcast—it’s a movement. Welcome to Divorced AF, where transformation begins.

Thank you for listening to today’s episode of Divorced AF with Audrey! If you found this episode helpful, please share it with another woman who could use some support on her journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help us reach more incredible women like you. Remember, Sister, your divorce was just the beginning, and the best is yet to come. Until next time!

Episode 5 - No Regrets

Leaving a long-term relationship is never easy, and second-guessing your decision is completely normal. In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice dives into the doubts, fears, and unexpected moments of regret that can surface after leaving a marriage or long-term relationship. With raw honesty and a no-BS approach, she reassures listeners that no one leaves a perfect relationship and that trusting yourself is key. If you’ve ever wondered, “Did I make the right decision?”—this episode is for you.

• Reevaluating the Decision to Leave

Audrey shares a recent coaching session where a client questioned her decision to leave a decade-long relationship. She unpacks the emotional and logistical complexities of separation—physical assets, emotional ties, and the occasional waves of doubt. Audrey reminds listeners that no one walks away from a perfect relationship and that questioning doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice.

• Personal Experience with Regret

Audrey opens up about her own journey of leaving her marriage in 2017. Despite conversations about reconciliation, she never wavered in her decision. She explains how clarity in the moment can help silence doubt later, reinforcing the importance of trusting your gut and recognizing that problems don’t magically disappear by staying.

• Understanding Abusive Relationships

Many people don’t realize they were in an emotionally or mentally abusive relationship until they’ve left. Audrey breaks down the concept of gaslighting and how emotional, financial, and verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. She shares her personal experience of dating a gaslighter post-divorce and explains how recognizing these red flags is crucial to healing.

• The Power of Going No Contact

For those leaving toxic or narcissistic relationships, cutting off contact is often the best move. Audrey discusses why blocking an ex—on social media, phone, and even email—can be essential for mental clarity and emotional well-being. Drawing from her own experience, she shares how stepping back and refusing to engage helped her reclaim her power and peace of mind.

• Post-Divorce Growth and Empowerment

Leaving a relationship isn’t just an ending—it’s a beginning. Audrey reflects on how her own divorce allowed her to step into her strength, build a thriving career, and become the woman she was meant to be. She encourages listeners to see their journey as an opportunity for personal growth and transformation.

• Encouragement and Next Steps

Audrey wraps up the episode with a powerful message of encouragement: You are brave. You are strong. And this is just the beginning. She invites listeners to connect with her, share their stories, and seek support as they navigate life post-divorce.

You don’t need permission to move forward. No regrets, just growth. 

Leaving a relationship is never easy, but trusting yourself is the key to healing. Doubt may creep in, but remember: you didn’t walk away from a perfect situation. Keep moving forward with confidence, knowing that you are brave, strong, and capable of creating a life you love.

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You’re stepping into a new chapter. Make sure the people around you deserve a seat at the table.

Connect with Audrey

• Instagram: @iamaudreyalice

• Email: Audreyajamos@gmail.com 

• Website: DAF Podcast

Be a Guest on the Show

Do you have a powerful story to share? Want to inspire others with your post-divorce journey? Fill out our guest application form and join Audrey on the show!

This is more than a podcast—it’s a movement. Welcome to Divorced AF, where transformation begins.

Thank you for listening to today’s episode of Divorced AF with Audrey! If you found this episode helpful, please share it with another woman who could use some support on her journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help us reach more incredible women like you. Remember, Sister, your divorce was just the beginning, and the best is yet to come. Until next time!