Ep 6 - The Passing of Simon

Written By Audrey Steffan Amos

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Grieving an ex-spouse is a unique and complicated experience, especially when your relationship was long over. In this deeply personal episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice opens up about the passing of her ex-husband, Simon. She reflects on the emotional complexities of his sudden illness, the unexpected waves of grief, and how she is navigating this chapter as a solo parent. If you’ve ever struggled with mourning someone you once loved but had to leave, this episode is for you.

  • The Illness and Hospitalization

Audrey shares the moment she received a life-altering call—her ex-husband was in the ICU on another island. She walks listeners through the whirlwind of hospital visits, his brief recovery, and the heartbreaking turn when he contracted a lung infection and passed away. She opens up about the difficult decision one of her children made not to visit and the importance of allowing space for personal grieving choices.

  • Processing the Emotional Impact

While they were no longer married, his passing still hit hard. Audrey discusses the mix of emotions—grief, sadness, and even unexpected feelings of loss. She highlights the power of community support and shares how connecting with other divorced women who’ve lost their ex-spouses has helped her process this experience.

  • Navigating the Aftermath

Losing an ex-spouse comes with unique challenges—handling their estate, making difficult phone calls, and dealing with logistics you never expected to be part of. Audrey walks through the overwhelming process of managing Simon’s affairs while balancing her own emotions and those of her children. She reminds listeners that grief is unpredictable and comes in waves.

  • Grieving and Moving Forward

Audrey reflects on how grieving a divorce differs from grieving a death. While she mourned the end of their relationship years ago, his passing brought a new layer of emotions. She discusses the practical side of grief—cremation, probate, and the mental toll of handling it all. Through it all, she emphasizes the importance of choosing joy, finding peace, and helping her children process their own grief in healthy ways.

  • Memorializing and Letting Go

In an ironic twist, Audrey now finds herself holding onto items from her ex-husband’s home—and even his ashes. She shares how she is working to neutralize the energy and focus on positive memories, while also encouraging her children to find signs of their father in their everyday lives. Forgiveness, understanding, and community support are key themes in this part of the journey.

  • Final Reflections and Encouragement

Audrey closes the episode with an important message: grief is complex, and all feelings are valid. She encourages listeners to reach out, share their stories, and seek support. Whether you’re grieving a divorce, a loss, or both, you are not alone.

Healing isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about reclaiming your future.

You are allowed to heal at your own pace. Whether you're rediscovering yourself, setting new boundaries, or just learning to breathe again, know that every small step forward is a victory. Give yourself grace, lean into the process, and keep choosing yourself.

You are allowed to grieve, heal, and move forward—on your own terms.

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