Ep 22 – When Do You Know

In this deeply personal episode of the Divorced AF Podcast, Audrey explores one of the most haunting questions women ask themselves when their relationship starts to unravel: When do you know it’s time to leave? With raw honesty and empathy, she opens up about the internal struggle, the fears, and the turning points that make this decision feel impossible—until it isn’t. Whether you're currently in a relationship that no longer feels aligned or you're reflecting on the moment you made your exit, this episode is filled with relatable moments and real-talk clarity that will leave you feeling seen.

The Question That Lingers

Audrey begins the episode by acknowledging the universal nature of the question, “When do you know?” She explains that for many women, especially those with kids or long histories with their partners, this question is heavy and ever-present. It’s not just about dissatisfaction—it’s about safety, self-worth, and whether there’s anything left to rebuild.

The Signs You Can’t Ignore

Audrey shares common internal and external signs that it may be time to go, including emotional exhaustion, loss of identity, growing resentment, and repeated cycles of false hope. She encourages listeners to trust their intuition, especially when their body and mind are signaling that something isn’t right.

The Guilt That Keeps You Stuck

In this segment, Audrey discusses the guilt many women feel when even thinking about leaving. From fear of breaking up a family to cultural expectations and self-judgment, she names the shame and reminds listeners that guilt often keeps us in a state of survival instead of living fully.

The Moment You Finally Know

Audrey walks through what “knowing” can look like—not always a dramatic moment, but often a slow accumulation of truths. She shares her own “final straw” story and the calm clarity that followed. She offers encouragement for those who still feel unsure, letting them know that knowing doesn’t always come quickly, but it does come.

A Message from Audrey

This episode was a tough one to record because I know what it feels like to sit in the unknown. If you’re listening and you’re there—questioning, doubting, feeling stuck—I just want you to know, you’re not alone. You don’t have to justify your pain or wait until it’s unbearable to make a move. Your knowing will come. And when it does, you’ll be ready.
I’m so proud of you for even asking the question.

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